“We Don't Say Those Words in
Class!”
When I was young about 9 or 10, my friends and I were at our
corner store buying some candy when a lady and a little boy about 4 or 5 came
into the store. The little boy was looking at us very strange. He then pointed
out our friend and said, mom why is he two colors? Of course his mom told him
to be quiet, and she had a frown on her face like he had done or said something
wrong. Our friend did not say anything, and neither did we. Matter of fact we
all pretended that we did not even hear the little boy because we had heard
this remark before and had seen how people reacted to our friend skin problem
before which was called vitiligo.
Therefore I believe by the mother telling her son to be quiet sent
the message that my friends skin problem was something bad or something that
should not be noticed or talked about. On the other hand she could have said
something as simple as, sometimes our bodies do different things on the inside
that cause our skin to make two colors. Something as simple as that I believe
could have gave the boy some type of answer until he was old enough to really understand
what vitiligo was.
Moreover if this had occurred within my classroom as an anti-bias
educator and we were outside of the classroom on a trip, and I heard one of the
children make this remark I would have said, (if I did not know) I would have
said I really do not know but we will look it up on the internet when we get
back to the classroom. Or perhaps if the person with vitiligo was an adult that
they had made the remark to, I would ask the person themselves if it was okay
for them to example to the children about their condition. This way the
children would have an answer even if they did not understand completely. Furthermore
by handling the situation this way I believe the next time they saw someone
that looked like this with vitiligo they would not respond in a negative way
because they would have learned that the medical condition has a name.
Hello Edith,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your post about your childhood experience with your friend with vitiligo. Your experience shows that often, parents may shush the child out of embarrassment or simply not knowing what to say. You are right in saying that the mother could have pointed out that sometimes our bodies do things that make our skin two different colors on the outside, but that it does not change who we are on the inside. What steps do you think would help parents learn to teach their children to appreciate differences and accept them as normal?